Suit Up! It’s Not Just For Neal Patrick Harris

I hate suits.  They make me feel miserable.  I feel like the tie is choking me to death while the jacket and dress shirt combo makes me sweat  like I’m running a marathon.  Plus the shirt collar always makes the back of my neck feel funny.  In fact, I hate all formal wear and try to avoid it as much as possible.

I picked my job in high tech because it required a minimum of dressing up and I avoid going to social occasions if they say “formal wear”.  Heck, If Barney Stinson himself stopped by my house and told me to “suit up!” I would put on a pair of jeans and a comfy t-shirt.  So yah, I dislike formal wear. [Read more...]

6 Things To Do After Being Dumped

breakup (10/365)It seemed fitting for me to write a post about getting dumped right after getting married. My wife would appreciate the humor (I think) and besides, what better topic than separation could there be for someone who’s just back from his honeymoon? :)

So, let’s talk breakups. Specifically, let’s talk about what to do after one of those soul rending break ups where you truly loved someone and then they dumped you. And yes, I speak from experience here. I loved my first wife very much and the day when she walked into our living room and told me “it’s over, we need to end our marriage” was the worst day of my life. It was a surprise to me and I’ve never been so hurt.

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What Is A Dating Coach?

Dating for DomokunsA few days ago I talked about my “cult” and the kind of people I would like in it.  Well, last week I met my first acolyte! :)  Yes, I’m joking, I’m not really recruiting acolytes folks, please stop sending me your applications (except you Ruth, you keep sending!) but I will say that I’ve been very interested in the whole dating coach idea over the years and the chance to talk to Greg in person was priceless.  The following are notes from our conversation along with some additional thoughts by me.  If you’re interested in learning more about Greg, feel free to check out his site “GK Shares Game[Read more...]

Why Do IT People Suck? A Lesson In Customer Service

RespectIf you’re anywhere in the corporate world then you’ve probably had some kind of bad experience with a group of people affectionately known as IT. They’re the folks responsible for setting up your computers, making sure the network doesn’t break and helping you out when you can’t figure out what’s wrong with your email. They’re also the folks with the reputation for being surly, unfriendly, unhelpful, uncooperative and a variety of other, less complimentary adjectives. In fact, at most companies I’ve worked with, IT was the department people disliked the most and they were generally viewed as an obstacle to people’s productivity.

Why Is This?

How do a bunch of people who usually work pretty hard and are in general smart and friendly develop a reputation for being absolutely awful to work with?  By the way, I will firmly stand by my assertion that IT folks are very smart and quite friendly once you get to know them.  They’re no different than any other person I know and there’s nothing inherent in IT which makes awful people.  So why is it that they have such an awful reputation?  It’s an easy answer actually, they have absolutely zero respect for their customers. [Read more...]

How To Have Sex More Often

censoredYes, “how do I get laid more” is one of the most frequent questions I get as a personal improvement coach. Sure, I write about getting a raise, getting hired, making apologies and networking but still, the most common question is a variation of “dude, how can I get more sex!” So rather than my usual approach to this question (which consists of a chuckle and quick DELETE), allow me to spend a bit more time answering this question in detail. [Read more...]